As parents and carers, guiding our children’s behaviour often involves explaining, reasoning, or reminding them, using just our words. But often, the most powerful messages aren’t spoken.
Our facial expressions, posture, gestures, and presence can all help shape how our children feel and respond, sometimes more than words ever could.
Body language is one of our most natural tools for connection. Long before children can speak, they’re experts at reading it. From the moment they’re born, babies watch our faces, listen to our tone, and sense our emotions. And as children grow, they still take cues from how we are, not just what we say.
Here are some practical ways you can use body language to support your child’s behaviour, whatever their age.
Children are like emotional mirrors; they reflect what they see and feel from us. Staying calm and grounded ourselves helps them feel safe and secure.
Before responding, check your own body: are your shoulders tense? Is your breathing quick? Just one long, slow breath can reset your posture and tone, which in turn helps your child settle.
Sudden movements or sharp tones can feel unsettling for children, and they benefit from our calm, steady posture to support their own emotional regulation.
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