What To Do if Your Child Tells You They’ve Been Abused

We want our children to live safe and happy lives. However, research by the NSPCC shows that around 1 in 20 children in the UK are sexually abused. This abuse is normally carried out by someone the child knows and can happen online or in person.

In this article, we’ll explain:

• • Signs that show something could be wrong

• • How to start a conversation with your child

• • What to do if your child talks about abuse

• • Where you can go for further support

There are different types of child abuse, but in this article, we focus on sexual abuse. For information about other forms of abuse, the NSPCC has a wide range of resources to help.

Preventing and recognising child abuse

If you feel your child is at risk of abuse, it’s important to take it seriously and get professional help. Don’t wait for proof that something’s happened or dismiss your worries. At the end of this article, you’ll find links to organisations that can help.

There are ways you can help your child recognise dangerous behaviour and have the confidence to speak out about it:

• • Teach them about their private parts, who might need to see them, and when it’s appropriate to take their clothes off (like being examined by a doctor if they hurt their bottom)

• • Help them develop friendships with trusted adults they could speak to if they feel uncomfortable about anything

• • Teach them about the difference between “fun secrets” and “dangerous secrets”

• • Praise honesty when your child tells you about mistakes they’ve made or problems they’re facing